21 Highlights from My 10-Day Vacation

For those of you who don’t follow my ever move on the social media network machines, you might have missed my most recent vacation. To give you an idea of how hard I like to vacation, it started with me taking a non-stop, red-eye flight to Philly from Seattle. I touched down at 6am, only to drive for two hours before having breakfast, then 5 hours to meet up with a friend, and then another near 6 hours to get to the hotel I was staying at for an event.

To help you fill in the gaps on what you missed, here’s my vacation highlights.

21 Highlights from My 10-Day Vacation

1. I drove a bit more than 2,000 miles.Best in social media and ministry at the white house
2. I traveled through four states.
3. Vacation started with going more than two days with less than three hours of sleep.
4. I spent time with the best of the best in my industry in Washington, DC.
5. I met internet friends in real life for the first time.
6. White House tour #2: check.
7. Over 75 people shared coffee and/or a meal with me.
8. I rode BMX with my best friends from PA.
9. I landed several BMX tricks I haven’t even tried in years (and did you see this fun video?).best coffee in washington dc
10. I worked myself in as the guest speaker for an commerce class at Central Penn College with no prior arrangement.
11. Good coffee does exist on the east coast and I found some.
12. Spent quality time with my mother.
13. I helped (however small) with the rebuild of a motor.
14. I got to shoot an AR-15.
15. I got to shoot an AK-47.
16. I attended my 10 year high school reunion (dinner at Cheesecake factory with 40% of our class, that’s four out of ten).
17. I got two parking tickets. That’s ONLY two. Pheww.coffee with mickey minnich
18. Shared an hour with one of my heroes just talking about life and drinking bad coffee.
19. I got to ride a 2003 Harley Night Train multiple times.
20. Had one TSA agent ask about my beard, only to have another (different part of the same airport) ask to tug on it.
21. I feel I’m going home when I return to Bellingham. That’s a really comforting feeling.

I had a blast. I’m very thankful for everyone who took time to meet up with me, let me sleep at their house, and bought me food. I wish I could have spent a few more weeks to hang out more, go to more places, and drink more coffee.

Overall, I think this was one of my favorite trips back east yet.

Discipleship

Persecution Will Come 16 “Behold, I am sending you out as sheep in the midst of wolves, so be wise as serpents and innocent as doves. 17 Beware of men, for they will deliver you over to courts and flog you in their synagogues, 18 and you will be dragged before governors and kings for my sake, to bear witness before them and the Gentiles. 19 When they deliver you over, do not be anxious how you are to speak or what you are to say, for what you are to say will be given to you in that hour. 20 For it is not you who speak, but the Spirit of your Father speaking through you. 21 Brother will deliver brother over to death, and the father his child, and children will rise against parents and have them put to death, 22 and you will be hated by all for my name’s sake. But the one who endures to the end will be saved. 23 When they persecute you in one town, flee to the next, for truly, I say to you, you will not have gone through all the towns of Israel before the Son of Man comes. 24 “A disciple is not above his teacher, nor a servant above his master. 25 It is enough for the disciple to be like his teacher, and the servant like his master. If they have called the master of the house Beelzebul, how much more will they malign those of his household.

This Is What I’ll Tell My Dad Today

Today, out of obligation of it being Father’s Day and for the sake of my heart to remain absent of anger and resentment, I will call my Father.

  • I will wish him a happy Father’s Day.
  • I will ask him about his motorcycle.
  • I’ll ask him how his vacation was.
  • I’ll ask him what’s new otherwise.
  • I’ll provide a courtesy update of my life in about 10 minutes.
  • I will then plan my escape plan to get off the phone.

More than ever, Father’s Day is a day that brings a lot of heartache, angry, and feelings of emptiness. As you probably noticed, it’s common for people to share photos of themselves with their father on Facebook and Instagram. This has only increased in the last few years. The photos are of joyful childhood memories, hiking adventures, and wedding days. The photos are matched only by the poetic descriptions of these manly men. Their love. Their patience. Their sacrifice.

What I Won’t Tell My Father Today

Of the less than a handful of photos I have of my father, I have none of him and I. It becomes even more apparent I lack the memories, good times, and life lessons others seem to share.

This lacking is something that has followed me since my youth. I first vocalized to a classmate in 2nd grade that I hated my Father. I’ve gone multiple periods of time, months at a time (I think once for about 2 years), not talking or seeing him, even when I lived just a few blocks away from him. Each time swearing to never have anything to do with him. I’ve contemplated changing my last name. I’ve contemplated physically harming him. None of which could ever heal the deep wounds I feel. Some how, God has granted me the wisdom to see a path to healing through forgiveness and grace.

I’ve been given so much and my Mother raised me very well, but there are things a boy desires from only his father. I’ve struggled knowing who I am as a man. How to dress with class. How to treat a woman. How to give out of sacrifice. The simplest of things are the things that stand out. At times, I can’t help but wonder why I wasn’t worth the time others received from their fathers.

In the midst of lacking those moments with my father, I’ve been incredibly blessed by many other men who have shown me so much. How to work on my BMX. How to change the oil in a car. How to be generous. How to shine my shoes and tie a tie. How to be confident in my identity as a man. I thank God for those men.

 

Happy Father’s Day to all the dads making it happen.

 

 

Sometimes, You Just Don’t Get Back What You Give

I don’t need to tell you this, but sometimes you just don’t get back what you give.

This happens in relationships, investments, jobs, taxes, and just about anything else in life.

You care for others and they refuse to reciprocate. You put your life’s savings into a business and it flops. You pay for extra toppings and don’t get them. You work long hours and never see a raise. You pay taxes and ask yourself every year, “What do they do with my money!?” You keep giving more and more into a relationship and it goes nowhere. Social security—need I say more?

Just for a moment, consider all the things that have failed to return what you’ve given into them. Seems unfair—right!?

I posted on Facebook recently a status reading: “Sometimes, you just don’t get back what you give.” This post was me venting about a friendship I felt I was being short-changed. I know, I know, who vents on Facebook so passive-aggressively? What followed is what re-worked my thinking.

I received Likes and comments. I received a few pieces of encouragement. Everyone immediately assumed what I posted was for a negative reason. And it was. But when I really started to think about it, I became glad. I found joy in knowing I don’t get back what I give all the time.

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It’s ok we don’t always get back what we give!

  • When’s the last time you didn’t call a friend back?
  • Did you ever lie on your taxes?
  • Did you ever tease someone?
  • Have you ever dented another person’s car door and just dipped out?
  • I’m sure you’ve never RSVP’d only to not show up.
  • Have you ever turned your back on God?
  • Have you ever refused God’s blessings, guidance and love?
  • Have you ever cursed God?

If I always got back what I gave, I’d be very lonely. I’d have even fewer people to call on. Even worse, the wrath of God would surely be due to me.

Oh, but what a wonderful thing grace is. The act of extending love when it isn’t deserved.

I could use so much more. Even still, I have much to gain from giving more. What a joy it is to know, I don’t always get what I give.

“For by the works of the law no person will be declared righteous before him, for through the law comes knowledge of sin. But now, apart from the law, the righteousness of God has been revealed, being testified about by the law and the prophets—that is, the righteousness of God through faith in Jesus Christ to all who believe. For there is no distinction, for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, being justified as a gift by his grace, through the redemption which is in Christ Jesus,” (Romans 3:20–24)